Date: Tue, 29 Oct 2013 10:28:54 -0400
From: stinmar1
Subject: assisted living care information

I really do appreciate all who read this and all who respond.  I am at a point I need some advice and some information . My mama is a brittle 67 year old diabetic . She can be very docile or very violent depending on her mood and sugar levels .My oldest son doesn’t come home  to avoid her all together . She shoved him through a six foot tall mirror his senior year in a rage then wondered why he didn’t want anything to do with her the next day . She has times where she mixes up memories and confuses the past but believes its real . If you question her on it she will get very upset . I have been hit a number of times , my kids have been pushed and shoved around and I’m at a point I cant care for her anymore . I do not know what to do . I have run in circles making phone calls and trying to get help just to be told to do this or that ,, then I do what I was told , then I’m told we cant help you . Mama has Medicaid and Medicare and for some reason that has stopped me from getting much help at all .  She has fallen asleep with the stove on several times , she has literally blacked out and fallen and there are times she functions almost perfectly normal for a while . She has a lot of meds that she takes not as prescribed but as she feels like she needs them . She wont let anyone have
anything to do with her meds and even though she has been pushed by her doctor into therapy she has refused .  She has refused three psychological exams in the last year .

I cant do this anymore ..  I have a LCSW working with us who recommends she be somewhere she can be monitored and the
rest of us can have some peace .  With all  of this said .. I really need some advice and help . I cant cook in the house anymore , we literally live in the shop and stay outside as much as possible .  I walk on pins and needles every day and I’m afraid of what will happen next .  If anyone here has had to go through this with a parent please talk to me . I have no idea what to do or where to start to do it .  I thank you for your time and I hope and pray none of you have to go through this with a parent.

Goodnite   Mark